Emotional Labour Calculator

Put a value on the invisible mental load you carry - the remembering, planning, worrying, and organising that never stops. Uses real professional equivalent wages.

Country

Family

	Task	Hrs/Wk	Annual
	Remembering everything Birthdays, appointments, school dates, shoe sizes, allergies, teacher names		£6,864
	Planning and scheduling Meal plans, weekly schedule, activity bookings, holiday planning, party organising		£7,280
	Anticipating needs Buying clothes before outgrown, restocking nappies/wipes, noticing when shoes are too small		£7,280
	Decision fatigue "What's for dinner?" x365, choosing schools, medical decisions, screen time rules		£20,800
	Worry and risk assessment Checking they're breathing, sun cream, road safety, online safety, friendship drama		£7,280
	Social coordination Thank you cards, RSVPs, teacher gifts, remembering allergies, childcare swaps		£6,864
	Household project management Knowing what needs fixing, booking tradespeople, insurance, car MOT, maintenance		£7,280
	Family relationship management Keeping in touch with both families, managing in-law dynamics, arranging visits		£20,800
	Research Googling symptoms at 2am, researching schools, finding the right car seat, comparing nurseries		£7,280
	Default parent tax Being the one the school calls, knowing where everything is, the backup for everything		£6,864

The "mental load" is the invisible work of thinking, planning, and worrying that keeps a household running - remembering appointments, managing relationships, deciding what's for dinner.

This calculator values that work using professional equivalents. The result is about making visible work that's usually invisible, not generating guilt.

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